Counselling, Psychotherapy & Expressive Arts Therapy in Finsbury Park, Haringey, North London N4
I am a humanistic psychotherapist accredited and registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). I work with individuals, couples and groups, with adults and teens.
I practise at Spectrum, overlooking Finsbury Park in N4, London Borough of Haringey. Spectrum is easily reached via Finsbury Park and Manor House tubes and Harringay Green Lanes and Harringay overgrounds. Spectrum celebrates its fortieth birthday this year and is a centre committed to humanistic psychotherapy.
Some of the areas I work with include difficulties in relationships, life transitions, anger, loss, grief, feelings of isolation, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, frustrations or difficulties at work and creative block.
I have a special interest in the area of creativity, what it means to be creative and how we can live creative lives. Living a creative life does not mean you have to be artistic (although you may be that too), it means being an active participant in your life, creating your experience and the life you want to live rather than allowing external factors to define who you are and what kind of life you lead. I run an ongoing therapeutic group on creativity: please see Walking The Creative Path. The next intake for the group is for the spring term, which begins on 19th April 2016.
I also have an interest in the psychology of money and how attitudes to money impact our sense of ourselves, our self-esteem, the choices we make with what we do with our time, and our relationships. I run a workshop on money, the next one will run in the autumn of 2016.
How I work
My approach is humanistic, which means that I see each of us as having inner resources and potential to draw on and develop. We all face challenges, but we also all can develop our inner resources to deal with challenges and create positive change. Developing greater awareness about yourself increases the possibility of positive change and gives you more conscious choice.
My theoretical frames of reference include gestalt and formative psychology, which means that my focus is on what is happening for you in the here and now. I also pay attention to how emotions are embodied. Your mind does not exist in isolation from your body, they are interconnected. How you think and feel affects how you are physically and vice versa.
In addition to offering talk counselling and psychotherapy, I have a specialist training in expressive arts therapy and occasionally draw on visual arts, drama, poetry, creative writing and sandplay therapy techniques where appropriate. Using the arts opens up new avenues for expressing feelings. It can also open up new mental and neurological pathways and can be helpful in developing alternative approaches to difficulties. There is no pressure, however, to engage with the arts if you prefer simply to talk.
Why choose Counselling & Psychotherapy?
The words counselling and psychotherapy tend to be used interchangeably, but 'counselling' is often used to describe work that is more short term and focused on one or two issues. The word 'psychotherapy' (or therapy) tends to be used to describe longer term work that looks at the bigger picture of how you experience yourself and relate to the world. In longer term work you can take a deeper look at your patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving.
Whether you want to focus on one particular issue or work on several, counselling and psychotherapy provide an opportunity to look at what is going on for you in a confidential, non-judgmental setting. Talking to friends and loved ones and sharing where we are in ourselves is an important part of building and maintaining relationships, but therapy provides the opportunity to talk with someone who is not personally involved, who has no vested interest in what you feel or do and who is practised in the art of listening.
People often begin therapy at a time of difficulty and therapy can provide real support at such a time. But it can also be worthwhile when life is flowing without too much difficulty and yet there is a sense of wanting to find more meaning or of 'what now?'. Sometimes a client will come in to therapy when facing a rite of passage such as marriage or reaching a particular age. Taking time to reflect on what it is you want from a new phase of life, and exploring how to create that, can lead to much greater fulfillment.
Counselling and psychotherapy can help you find fresh insight. Sometimes we cannot see the wood for the trees. By asking questions and giving feedback a therapist can help you clear confusion and find the solutions that are right for you. Therapy is not, however, simply an intellectual process - the positive impact of therapy is dependent on the quality of the empathetic relationship between therapist and client. It is important to find a therapist you feel you can talk to, whom you can trust and develop a rapport with.
Relationships often run into trouble because of difficulties with communication. As a couples therapist one of the main areas I look at is how people communicate. Good communication is a skill that can be practised and developed. Poor communication keeps a relationship stuck in a negative loop. Having a couples therapist present when you are talking to each other can be helpful in identifying where it is you are not communicating effectively and improving communication.
We all have histories around relationships and these histories can mean we have a lot of assumptions and attitudes about relationships that may or may not fit easily with our partner's history. Couples therapy is an opportunity to take a closer look at what you each bring to the relationship and what you create together.
Sex and intimacy are complex areas surrounded in unhelpful myths. Maintaining desire and passion in a long-term committed relationship is challenging. Affairs and betrayals can create crisis in a relationship.
One of the central challenges in life is how to be in relationship and also be connected to ourselves, to balance the need for intimacy with the need for autonomy. It is that balancing act that couples therapy fundamentally addresses.
If you are interested in booking a first session, please call me on (07877) 453 477. You can also e-mail me using the link at the top of the page.
For more information on fees and a map of my location, click on practice details.
Spectrum is convenient for the local area of Harringay, postcodes N4, N8 and N15, and the wider borough of Haringey. In addition to tube and overground, there are buses connecting to Stroud Green, Crouch End, Wood Green, Tottenham, Stoke Newington, Highbury & Islington, Holloway and Camden. Spectrum is easily accessible from most parts of North London, North West London and North East London and there are good transport connections for parts of London further afield.